[00:00:00] Ikenna: The upside down L dance. Oh, right, it's the, the L dance. No, no, no. You're not doing, you're fine. Cause they're just Ls and there do Okay. Make sure your right angle. No, no, right. No, no, no. With your, with your wrist. Oh, with your wrist. Oh,
[00:00:15] Safrianna: with the, I see. See I went into my nine there. You did. Anyway. Hello.
[00:00:20] Welcome. See if this is already, if you're not doing the video version, you're missing so much stuff. And I wanna say that extra today because, uh, We have a guest on that's really gonna benefit you from watching and following along with the content. And I'm super excited for this guest because it is Meryl Hayton who is like the best EFT practitioner I've ever met.
[00:00:43] She knows her stuff. She has studied this like so thoroughly. Um, and she's always on the latest edge of EF f t, so we're gonna have her. Walk us through some EF f t in this episode, and if you can't see it, it can't do it unless you already know your EF f t tapping points, in which case, I'm sure you'll still benefit, but let's go ahead and bring a Merrill on.
[00:01:08] Hello Meryl .
[00:01:11] Meryl: Wow.
[00:01:11] See,
[00:01:11] Safrianna: we're just,
[00:01:12] Meryl: what an introduction. Thank you.
[00:01:14] Safrianna: Yes, we're, we're very goofy and honest. Over here. You will find so, because we're all about authenticity and that means. Living in our truth
[00:01:23] and love it.
[00:01:24] Ikenna: Our truth is goof.
[00:01:25] Safrianna: Our truth is goof. Goof. I love it. So welcome Meryl. You know, I obviously know you, um, from some professional organizations and I've had the pleasure of working with you as an E F T practitioner.
[00:01:39] So can you tell our audience just a little bit about what initially drew you to EFT Tapping?
[00:01:50] Meryl: Well, I mean, being on my own lifelong healing journey of wanting to heal my inner critic and sadness and judgment and, um, wanting to believe in myself more and feel really just really feel true. Happiness and fulfillment and love on the inside just led me down the path of, you know, following the breadcrumbs.
[00:02:12] And, uh, I was inspired to follow. my, who ended up being my first coach. I took like a four day class with her in mind body medicine. She did a lot of EFT tapping, and at first I thought it was weird. I didn't really like it, I didn't get it. And I was like, I don't know. But I really love her. I'm gonna follow everything she does.
[00:02:37] I don't care. Like, I just wanted to like it that bad because I knew she loved it and I knew. I trusted her and I knew she saw benefits in it and I was like, I'm gonna like it. Right? And I wanted to work with her in a program that was going to be like a year from when I met her the first time. So I I, in that year I closed my old business.
[00:02:59] I, um, you know, started teaching workshops on feeling enough and I am enough using yoga. Cause I was a yoga teacher and meditation facilitator. And then I, um, started to incorporate these themes into my classes. And then I, and I watched all of her videos that she had and all of her continuing education, um, to just keep me, you know, in check so that I was ready to start to work with her.
[00:03:28] And everything she was doing was tapping. I was like, well, I guess just gonna keep on it, keep on keeping on, right? And then one night I remember I can picture myself, I was sitting in bed and I was ruminating about something that was driving me nuts. And, um, I said, I, I, I'm just not gonna sleep. I just know I'm not gonna sleep.
[00:03:48] Oh, let me do that tapping thing, right? And I, you know, did a few rounds of the tapping thing and then, wait, what was I tapping on? ? Oh, oh my God. Right? And then I just had this profound shift and went, oh, this is what she's been talking about. Oh, now I get it. I'm in. That was it. And I just immersed myself from that moment on into as much possible education as I can get, and then getting certified, accredited and all the, and then creating whole business using it.
[00:04:27] So.
[00:04:28] Safrianna: Wow.
[00:04:29] I mean, what a glowing review of like feeling the thing, being able to, to just feel it in your body.
[00:04:37] Ikenna: Yeah, and I mean, that's, go ahead. .
[00:04:40] Meryl: And I think, uh, I just said this the other day when I was speaking at a convention about this and I said, I like to be, um, a part of my healing journey, physically a part of my healing journey.
[00:04:55] And I love to learn the best through experiencing and feeling. So I think that's a big reason why I love this so much, you know, and it's just my jam. .
[00:05:11] Ikenna: Yeah, I mean the, I've, I've noticed as like a therapist, I've, when, when I do an intervention with the client versus like telling the intervention to the client for them to try on their own and then come back and let me know, usually there's more buy-in and more like, oh, okay.
[00:05:36] Like I can kind of see where this is coming from when there's the opportunity to experience mm-hmm. it in front of the other person. Yeah. Um, and then if they do it on their own, then they can have even more profound experiences then. Mm-hmm. . So that's awesome to hear. Like, I I I love hearing when you are, cause cuz you're, where I think a lot of people are in terms of interventions and, uh, self-care practices because there are a lot of people that want the self-care practice to work. And it's not exactly landing initially, but you still had at least the information and the tool in the toolbox to pull out during a time of stress. Mm-hmm. . And were was like, okay, maybe this will work this time. And it did. And you're like, oh, , well okay, I'm glad that I have it.
[00:06:32] Have this here. So that like, yeah. Just beautiful story cuz I feel like it's gonna. . A lot of people will relate to that
[00:06:40] Safrianna: for sure. Yeah. I talk a lot about, um, these self-care practices don't really make a big difference if you haven't practiced them ahead of time. Mm-hmm. , because it's kinda like if you, if you've never driven a school bus in your life and all of a sudden you're told there's an emergency, go drive the school bus and you've never even like turned the thing on and you don't know what all the buttons mean, you're just gonna panic.
[00:07:04] but if you've practiced driving the bus a thousand times and then there's an emergency, you can get on and drive the bus. No problem. Like you had practiced it, but you needed that like real probably felt in the moment sense of how it really could bring that cortisol down.
[00:07:23] Meryl: Oh yeah. No, and I, and when I do this work and I feel shifts, even if, like I do lots of continuing education for.
[00:07:32] where I'm watching videos and then I meet with a group weekly to discuss and all this stuff, and I can listen to the video, go through the exercises that someone else is taking someone else through, try to kind of make it my own, so to speak, and I'll feel literally an energetic, an energetic shift. I do feel that in my system and I felt that that night, and I had never felt that before, ever in my life.
[00:08:03] Yeah. Oh wow. So, and since then, I feel it all the time. now, you know, and I'm, because I've cleared so much out of my system, I do feel a lot more connected and, you know, feel like I get the downloads and I can listen and trust my intuition more and all that. So,
[00:08:22] Ikenna: I mean, do you feel like, uh, before you had.
[00:08:28] Felt this energy shift, cuz you said that you had never felt this energy shift before. Mm-hmm. , do you feel like throughout your life you were doing a lot of, like people call themselves like, uh, what self-improvement junkies or something? Like you were constantly doing the self-improvement stuff to try and you were seeking that energy shift and it was almost like this moment where you.
[00:08:55] Surrendered to the EFT in that moment. It just, the energy shift came, like, it was just kind of like a meant to be. Like, that's what it's sounding like in terms of like, you were spending so much time seeking it that you didn't realize that it could just, you know, happen for you.
[00:09:13] Meryl: Yeah. No, I, I now use the term self-development junkie because of Safrianna
[00:09:20] thank you very much. And, um, I absolutely was. I mean, I was constantly trying to fix and control and I was in my head all the time. And, uh, do, I was, but I do yoga and I meditate and I journal and I do the, I do all the things. I go on retreats and da, da, da. Right? And it still wasn't, I wa it, I wasn't finding the thing that was for.
[00:09:50] Safrianna: and that's a great note right there too, like finding the thing that's right for you, right? Mm-hmm. , EF T works for so many of my clients, and then there's the ones that are like, no,
[00:10:01] yeah, I'm so disconnected
[00:10:02] from this, I could never do it. Yeah, and there's the element of practicing it, of course, but.
[00:10:07] Everyone needs that ability and permission to explore different modalities. And you know, that's, I know probably a big part of our mission is bringing people as many tools as possible and as many people as possible to explore these different supports with cuz I mean, EFTs definitely been tremendous for me.
[00:10:29] I discovered it. in graduate school cuz I, I did a self-designed course on alternative modalities. Mm-hmm. , uh, for therapeutic work and found E F T that way. And, and so I started studying it then and I remember just the massive initial shifts in that felt in the body because you're tapping, you're literally feeling your body as you are processing these emotional statements.
[00:10:57] And there's just that mind body connection. that deepens the work in such a profound way.
[00:11:03] Meryl: Mm-hmm. . It does.
[00:11:06] Safrianna: What is your favorite, like, cuz I know there's different, there's different EFT modalities and like different tapping points, and now there's the optimal EFT, which I didn't know about until you mm-hmm.
[00:11:17] Uh, what's your favorite form of EFT?
[00:11:22] Meryl: Huh um, my favorite form. . I mean, one of, one of the tools or techniques that I love of EFT is called The Nine Gamut. That's one that I do love. I'm not sure if you're familiar with that.
[00:11:37] Safrianna: Um, not under that name at least.
[00:11:40] Meryl: Yeah. If someone has, um, say someone's going through a breakup, there's a lot of emotions that are connected to something like that, right?
[00:11:51] So, and you wanna quell everything down. and get as much focus as you possibly can so that you can tap and have words on something, right? So you can shift things in a big way with the nine gamut technique, which is a little similar to EMDR because you're tapping on the gamut point, which is here on the hand.
[00:12:14] and then you are doing some rapid eye movement and sound with it. Mm-hmm. . So you're, you're moving your eyes, you're looking at like a big clock going both ways. You're humming a verse to I ro where your boat, you could do happy birthday. And then you're counting. And then you're humming and then, right. So there's a few, you know, we do all the steps together.
[00:12:35] There's no words or anything. And after that there's always like a big shift that happens, which is. , you know, I, and I guess I love seeing that kind of stuff, you know? Um, and then, I mean, there's just so many things that are available to me to help my clients, but honestly, I'm big into the optimal EF T now.
[00:13:02] So using that for inner child healing and ancestral healing. . It's, it's just so profound. Um, I do love self-compassion tapping. That's also like inner child work, so I love that too. Um, yeah, I, I can't say one thing. .
[00:13:24] Safrianna: Yeah. I mean it
[00:13:26] also
[00:13:27] Good. Yeah. Um,
[00:13:29] I'm so curious for you to say more about how EFT can be used to do this ancestral healing work because I know so many people right now are coming to terms with like generational trauma and like their parents' wounds and even like these massive lineage wounds that we have.
[00:13:49] So what have you uncovered in that?
[00:13:52] Meryl: Yeah. Um, well, I mean, I did a training, obviously started with my own work. and um, and now, you know, using it with my clients. So typically you have to start and meet where your client is at, right? So, um, say someone has money issues and they are, um, they have a scarcity mindset and you've worked on their fear and their doubt and their lack and their anxiety around money.
[00:14:29] Um, and as you weave through using the tapping and it guides you to the next places that you need to go in your sessions and you come to Yeah. You know, when I grew up, my mom wouldn't let me buy that leather jacket or we always had to scrimp and save or, you know, we were taught you to work really hard in order to make money.
[00:14:55] you know, that you realize these things were instilled in you and then there's this learned behavior that you carry, you know, throughout. So when we get back to that place and we clear out as much as we can, clear out from the times when my mom said this or my, the time when my father did that or, and all connected to this lack and scarcity around money.
[00:15:20] Then we would go into, well, let's heal your mom's lack and scarcity. Well, where was your mom from? Oh, well, she moved from, you know, Russia, you know, here when she was a little child Right then and there is trauma, right? It's not usually a happy thing that a child is moving from another country to the United States.
[00:15:42] So we go into healing. , that trauma, their scarcity. Maybe they're, they went through the depression, and then we can go into their parents and what their stress was and, and all of that. And we can heal. Um, you know, even, you know, I usually, I would start with what was happening. with the, the child and the parents when they were young.
[00:16:11] Then it can be when they were born. And it's just, you know, a client could say, well, I don't know, but you can sense it. You can, you kind of can know, right? But even with my work, we can make it up, believe it or not. , um, With the trainings that I watch, the founder Gary Craig, of both of these modalities, um, optimal EFT included, um, I've seen him many times.
[00:16:39] Just, we don't know, let's just make it up. And you know what, it always ends up, something always ends up coming in, you know, like an awareness or a aha moment or a memory or something always ends up coming in. So that can even be used. , you know, when the client is like, I, I don't really know what my parents' dresses were when they were growing up, or I didn't know my grandparents or whatever.
[00:17:05] I mean, I didn't know any of my grandparents. So, but I can still do this practice. Mm-hmm. and just kind of sense into what I think it might be, you know, and feel into my intuition, you know, and, and just use that as my guideline. And then you can have conversations just like when I do self-compassion, tapping it.
[00:17:25] I see you right? I see you. I see you're hurt. I see you're sad, or I see you're scared, or whatever it is. I can do the same kind of conversation with a past relative. Hmm. And, and help their, you know, help them heal their stress. And then in turn it heals the dna so it heals it in me or my client, and then if they have children going forward and yeah.
[00:17:53] Safrianna: Wow. It's. and it sounds very, very powerful. It is powerful. You know, this extra
[00:18:00] layer, what were you gonna say?
[00:18:01] Ikenna: Oh, I mean, the intuition piece, like, I feel like the, the whole making it up piece, uh, ties back to how you were saying like before with the, the, the self-development junkie. Like there was a lot of need for control.
[00:18:20] There's a lot of need for you to, to know, like when you're doing this work with clients, it sounds like what? The ancestral work and they're like, I don't know. Mm-hmm. , what happened? It's almost like that, that control piece still, like, in order for me to fully heal, I have to fully know and have the words to, to heal it.
[00:18:45] But then this modality seems. provide this level of permission to just trust your intuition. Yeah. Even if you might not necessarily have the words in the moment, but you can trust yourself, which is something that I feel society has wounded and scarred most people from is the trusting yourself piece.
[00:19:14] Because a lot of times, many, many, many, many people have been gas lit over how they're feeling, how they're seeing a situation, how they see if something is safe or not. You know, like so the fact that this modality is allowing people to enter back into trusting themselves is beautiful.
[00:19:38] Meryl: Yeah, no, it is, it is.
[00:19:40] I, I don't feel that people take enough time to be able to learn to trust themselves. Right. Because they're just, I've gotta get to the next place. I, I just gotta stuff this feeling down and I gotta get to the next place. I gotta fix it. I have to Right. Gotta get rid of it. I gotta move on. I gotta, mm.
[00:19:59] Being with it, as you know, is what transmutes it. Mm-hmm. .
[00:20:06] Ikenna: Wow. Being with it is what transmutes it. Yes.
[00:20:10] Safrianna: Yeah. And I mean, EFT is that permission to sit with it. it is. Cause you're literally sitting with it. You're like, this doesn't feel good. I'm feeling all these ways. Yeah. You know, this is how my body's feeling.
[00:20:23] This is how my mind is feeling. And like, you're, you're literally with it. Yep. And then there's that beautiful transition out of it as you layer and like the next pieces.
[00:20:34] Meryl: Yeah. No, and I, I remember someone said to me not too long ago, um, , you know, don't just tap it out and get rid of it, you know, really be with it.
[00:20:45] And I said, oh, that's what tapping does for me. It really helps me to be with it. Yeah. Because I'm getting under all the layers of everything and then I'm loving and accepting myself through the process. You know? I mean, not every client feels that way, so I don't use those words with everyone, but I feel that way no matter what I'm going through.
[00:21:06] Um, yeah.
[00:21:08] Ikenna: So that. Sorry.
[00:21:10] Safrianna: Oh, I'm just giggling about like the, you know, don't just tap it out. Like, to me that
[00:21:15] is exactly, you know,
[00:21:19] when we do spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity Right. I could see a lot of people fearing EFT being that, but it absolutely isn't cuz you are with it. Mm-hmm. , you are so with it.
[00:21:29] Ikenna: Mm-hmm. . Yeah. I mean that's, that seems to be the theme that's been popping up a lot is like, we're, um, I've heard from several different philosophers now of like, the, the yearning for happiness means you aren't happy. Like if you're in this space of, um, of trying to find happiness, you can't, you're, you're not able to sit in the happiness because you're just looking somewhere.
[00:22:04] Yeah. Versus looking where you are currently and able to see the happiness that could exist. Same thing with like, yes, we're imperfect, but we can see there's a lot of, like, I'll be, I'll be whole and perfect once this happens. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. , if I can get to that. Um, it's a very hypothetical, like quantitative research.
[00:22:26] If this happens, then this happens, but. We aren't built like that and it's like if we stop to just sit in it like cuz EFT can happen like helping through like distress. But I'm sure with the self-compassion piece too, it sounds like. Um, and other aspects of EFT as well as you can tap in to being just in the moment and so you can just relish.
[00:22:58] The the now, because I feel like a lot of us just don't know how to exist in the now or you know, or permit ourselves to be in the now. Yeah.
[00:23:08] Safrianna: I mean, we're chronically dissociated. Yes. And we have a lot of mass, mass agreed upon dissociation, such as just the screen scrolling and the permission to check out and the permission to look outside of ourselves constantly.
[00:23:25] Yeah. So, yeah. .
[00:23:28] I was thinking maybe we could do some tapping on the self-trust piece because as we were talking about that, I was like, what in the world could we do some tapping about today? And then the self-trust conversation came in and I'm like, everybody can benefit from more self-trust.
[00:23:44] Meryl: Mm-hmm. . Oh yeah.
[00:23:45] There's always. You know, like an, an intuitive drop in that happens in these sessions. I never, I I didn't think one iota about what I was gonna say or how was Not at all. Not at all. You just go with the flow. Just showed up. I just showed up and, yeah. So, yeah. Beautiful. I love it. We can absolutely tap on that.
[00:24:09] Safrianna: Yeah. So take it away. You are our guide and this audience's guide. Through
[00:24:15] Meryl: some self-trust . Um, I just wanna do a quick little explanation of what E F T is. Right? It means emotional freedom technique, so it's freeing you from unwanted emotions, old thoughts, old events, trauma, um, old patterns that you don't want anymore.
[00:24:36] And, uh, we are tapping on the, the 12 main Chinese energy meridian points. We're tapping on the ends of the points, so, . Um, we're hitting all of the main ones. It's very similar to acupuncture, but we're using our fingertips instead. And it is disrupting and dismantling your energy and emotional attachment to whatever is your presenting issue, right?
[00:24:59] Whatever you don't want. So today we're gonna talk about, um, how to improve your self trust. So if you think for a moment, I trust myself, at what number? On a scale of zero to 10, zero. , right? You don't trust yourself at all. 10,
[00:25:21] you, you, you know, have incredible self-trust. Right? Or you can say it as, I don't trust myself,
[00:25:32] right? I do trust myself or I don't trust myself. And I usually, when I'm asking my client's questions, I, I'll do like a little list of questions and I'll, I'll throw in like, , um, and opposite of what I'm asking, you know, because then they're like, oh, wait a minute. So they, you really, the truth really comes out of what number, you know, where they're at.
[00:25:53] So, um, so either way and come up with whatever number you're at, just so that you have a baseline and we'll just start there. So you're gonna tap on the side, the outside of your hand. I'm right on the outside of my hand. It doesn't matter which side you tap on. Some people do both sides of the hands together.
[00:26:18] I started doing it that way, but I don't do that anymore. Right. And I'm tapping gently, but I typically do fast tapping and tapping can absolutely create you to have tingling sensations. , maybe a little lightheadedness. You know, it's just energy moving. It's all normal. It might bring you to cry. It might, might not be today, but um, it could bring you to yawn.
[00:26:46] Um, but all of those things are normal and releasing for your body. So, um, just know that. And, uh, so here we go. You're gonna, will one of you repeat after me?
[00:27:03] Okay. So even though I don't trust myself
[00:27:07] Ikenna: even though I don't trust myself,
[00:27:09] Meryl: and it's at a number, you can fill that in.
[00:27:13] Ikenna: Uh, eight,
[00:27:16] Meryl: and it's at a number eight. I'm choosing to honor how I feel.
[00:27:22] Ikenna: I'm choosing to honor how I feel,
[00:27:24] Meryl: and even though I don't trust myself today or right now, ,
[00:27:30] Ikenna: even though I don't trust myself today,
[00:27:34] Meryl: I'm choosing to acknowledge I feel this way.
[00:27:38] Ikenna: I'm choosing to acknowledge I feel this way,
[00:27:40] Meryl: and even though I don't trust myself right now
[00:27:44] Ikenna: and even though I don't trust myself right now
[00:27:47] Meryl: I'm choosing to be open to the possibility
[00:27:50] Ikenna: I'm choosing to be open to the possibility
[00:27:54] Meryl: of trusting myself ,
[00:27:56] Ikenna: of trusting myself.
[00:27:58] Meryl: We're gonna go to the top of the head, so I have like a full palm on the top of my head.
[00:28:04] I don't trust myself.
[00:28:06] Ikenna: I don't trust myself,
[00:28:08] Meryl: and then I'm going inside the eyebrows right where they start. I don't trust myself.
[00:28:13] Ikenna: I don't trust myself.
[00:28:15] Meryl: And then outside the eyes, I don't trust myself. I don't trust myself under the eyes. Nope, I don't trust myself. .
[00:28:25] Ikenna: Nope. I don't trust myself.
[00:28:28] Meryl: And under the nose, no trust.
[00:28:31] Ikenna: No trust.
[00:28:33] Meryl: And on the chin, no trust.
[00:28:36] Ikenna: No trust.
[00:28:38] Meryl: Under the collarbone. I don't trust myself.
[00:28:41] Ikenna: I don't trust myself.
[00:28:43] Meryl: And then under the arm, so it can be here, right? Both sides or this way if it's hard to reach around, right? I don't trust myself.
[00:28:53] Ikenna: I don't trust myself. .
[00:28:55] Meryl: Okay, pause. Take a cleansing breath, which means in your nose and out your mouth.
[00:29:05] Taking the deep breaths helps to shift things faster. So now you would test again, I don't trust myself at what number and see where you're at. And then I would ask, how does it make you feel that you don't trust yourself? . All right. What is it like for you when you don't trust yourself?
[00:29:29] Ikenna: Um, well, it felt like it already shifted to like a seven or a 6.5.
[00:29:38] Meryl: Okay.
[00:29:39] Ikenna: Um, and
[00:29:45] I felt,
[00:29:52] I felt angry. , like I felt angry at the people who,
[00:30:04] who told me that I couldn't trust myself.
[00:30:10] Meryl: Okay, so you're already getting more focused. Mm-hmm. . Right? Because I didn't ask in what area did you not trust yourself? I made it very general. Right. And already in one round. , you're down a point and a half and you're more focused on which situation seems to be standing out for you.
[00:30:33] Mm-hmm. , right? So now I would say, well,
[00:30:40] is there, so is there like a specific event that's standing out that happened, would you say? Or it's just still kind of a general mix of more than one thing? .
[00:30:53] Ikenna: Um, it's not a specific event, but it would be specific feelings coming up from a person in my past.
[00:31:10] Meryl: Okay.
[00:31:16] All right. Um, . So let's tap and get a little clarity. We're just gonna tap and talk a little bit, right. So,
[00:31:26] so right now I'm feeling like I don't trust myself
[00:31:29] Ikenna: Right now I feel like I don't trust myself
[00:31:31] Meryl: and it's bringing me back to this situation with this person from my past.
[00:31:36] Ikenna: And it's bringing me back to this situation from the person, from my past.
[00:31:40] Meryl: Right? And that was then, and this is now,
[00:31:44] Ikenna: that was then, and this is now.
[00:31:46] Meryl: It's an old event.
[00:31:49] Ikenna: It's an old event.
[00:31:50] Meryl: It's not happening anymore.
[00:31:52] Ikenna: It's not happening anymore.
[00:31:53] Meryl: That was then, and this is now.
[00:31:56] Ikenna: That was then. And this is now.
[00:31:58] Meryl: It's not happening.
[00:32:00] Ikenna: It's not happening.
[00:32:01] Meryl: Somehow I survived it.
[00:32:03] Ikenna: Somehow I survived it
[00:32:05] Meryl: and I made it through.
[00:32:07] Ikenna: I made it through
[00:32:08] Meryl: and right here and right now I'm safe
[00:32:11] Ikenna: right here and right now I'm safe.
[00:32:13] Meryl: Good. And it's not happening. ,
[00:32:15] Ikenna: it's not happening.
[00:32:19] Meryl: So now I would ask, when you think of that situation mm-hmm. , what comes up about it? Before you mentioned anger. So what's your anger at about this? Or is it not angry?
[00:32:41] Ikenna: Hmm.
[00:32:46] the anger is like current me.
[00:32:50] Meryl: Yeah. How you feel about it now when you're thinking about it. Yeah. Not when you thought about it back then. So not associated with it back then, just now how you think. Yeah. How you feel about it.
[00:33:04] Ikenna: Yeah. I'm, I am angry because, yeah. I an, I'm angry that. , I was not taken seriously.
[00:33:17] Meryl: Ah, and angry at what number today?
[00:33:25] Ikenna: Probably an eight.
[00:33:27] Meryl: Okay, so that was the eight. The original eight. Mm-hmm. . Right. So now we'll go into the anger, because the s the, the, I don't trust myself is lower. So you wanna stay with the higher intensity, right. So even though I'm feeling angry right now,
[00:33:44] Ikenna: even though I'm feeling angry right now,
[00:33:47] Meryl: I'm choosing to honor how I feel.
[00:33:49] Ikenna: I'm choosing to honor how I feel.
[00:33:52] Meryl: And even though I'm feeling angry,
[00:33:54] Ikenna: even though I'm feeling angry
[00:33:56] Meryl: about this past event,
[00:33:57] Ikenna: about this past event,
[00:33:59] Meryl: that's not happening anymore.
[00:34:01] Ikenna: It's not happening anymore.
[00:34:02] Meryl: That was then, and this is now.
[00:34:04] Ikenna: That was then, and this is now.
[00:34:06] Meryl: And I can choose to let these feelings go
[00:34:09] Ikenna: I can choose to let these feelings go.
[00:34:12] Meryl: And even though I still feel angry,
[00:34:15] Ikenna: even though I still feel angry
[00:34:17] Meryl: from this past event,
[00:34:18] Ikenna: from this past event,
[00:34:20] Meryl: that's not happening anymore.
[00:34:22] Ikenna: That's not happening anymore.
[00:34:24] Meryl: And I can choose to let these feelings go
[00:34:26] Ikenna: and I can choose to let these feelings go.
[00:34:29] Meryl: But I still feel angry
[00:34:30] Ikenna: and I still feel angry.
[00:34:32] Meryl: And I wanna honor that,
[00:34:33] Ikenna: and I wanna honor that.
[00:34:34] Meryl: And I choose to love and accept myself as I am.
[00:34:38] Ikenna: I choose to love and accept myself as I am.
[00:34:40] Meryl: That feels true, the love and accept myself. All of it?
[00:34:46] Ikenna: Yes.
[00:34:47] Meryl: Okay. Top of the head. Angry.
[00:34:51] Ikenna: Angry.
[00:34:52] Meryl: Inside the eyebrows, I just feel angry.
[00:34:55] Ikenna: I just feel angry.
[00:34:56] Meryl: Outside the eyes. Angry.
[00:34:59] Ikenna: Angry
[00:35:00] Meryl: and under the eyes. Feeling angry.
[00:35:03] Ikenna: Feeling angry,
[00:35:05] Meryl: and under the nose. Angry
[00:35:09] Chin. Just feeling angry.
[00:35:12] Ikenna: Just feeling angry.
[00:35:14] Meryl: Yep. And under the collarbone. Angry.
[00:35:17] Ikenna: Angry.
[00:35:19] Meryl: And under the arm. Angry.
[00:35:22] Ikenna: Angry.
[00:35:25] Meryl: All right. Relax and deep cleansing. Breath in through the nose
[00:35:33] and out.
[00:35:37] And then you'll check in. I trust myself. What number?
[00:35:46] Ikenna: Um, I trust myself is at like seven. Pretty high. Yeah. That means that I don't trust myself as a three. Now . ,
[00:36:04] Meryl: is that right?
[00:36:05] Ikenna: Yeah.
[00:36:06] Meryl: Okay. And you were an eight?
[00:36:09] Ikenna: Mm-hmm. ,
[00:36:10] Meryl: just clarifying, right?
[00:36:12] Yeah. Okay. Um, I'm angry about this past event or a situation. I know it wasn't specific event, but I'm angry about this thing from my past.
[00:36:22] Is what number now?
[00:36:25] Ikenna: That also feels around a three.
[00:36:28] Awesome. Yeah.
[00:36:31] in one round. . . Yeah.
[00:36:35] Safrianna: And you know, EFT is so interesting like that, like results may vary, sometimes it spikes a little bit and then comes down. Mm-hmm. and then sometimes it's down several points and then sometimes it's one round and it just drops.
[00:36:47] Mm-hmm. so interesting.
[00:36:49] Ikenna: I, I really love like the, the live energy that you provide Meryl, cuz that, like I've, I. have like the tapping solution app, which is mm-hmm. , uh, a nice like pre-recorded thing that you can do, but it's like not, it it like you can help guide.
[00:37:13] Meryl: I'm personalizing it for you. Yeah.
[00:37:15] Personalized the fast results.
[00:37:18] When you're doing something that's pre-recorded, it's only gonna be kind of like a temporary bandaid.
[00:37:24] Ikenna: I can tell you that for sure. Yeah. . Yep. But yeah, thank you. That was, that's incredible.
[00:37:31] Meryl: Yeah. So now you'll probably start to pop with, oh, there was this time when, oh, and there, right. You'll start to pop with some little events now that per, you know, that are connected to this.
[00:37:43] I would write those down. You keep a list, those are the things that you wanna work on. Mm-hmm. and shift. And then your self-trust will just keep going up and up and up. The nu right. And that's, that's what happens is we just follow the path.
[00:37:58] Ikenna: Yeah. I I, it's so interesting when we were doing that exercise, I just felt current me like starting to like stand with the younger me and being like, yo, we got this to this person, to the person that was like making us doubt ourselves.
[00:38:19] So that was like, . Super cool. Mm-hmm. .
[00:38:23] Meryl: Yeah. I love that visual . And you can tap, you can tap something like that in like, it's nice here. Let's just do a quick round because obviously we're not staying on here, you know, to forever and ever. Right?
[00:38:38] Safrianna: So we do a one
[00:38:40] of Meryl's 90 minute sessions. You just do
[00:38:43] E F T and you get in
[00:38:45] there like damn.
[00:38:47] She goes deep.
[00:38:48] Ikenna: I'm, I'm here for it. ,
[00:38:50] Safrianna: but yes. Positive round.
[00:38:51] Meryl: So let's just do like a wrap up round. Mm-hmm. , because this is like soothing to your body. It's, it's confirming for your body what's shifted and it kind of like seals up any vulnerability that might be out there right now. Right. All right. So we've worked on some self-trust issues.
[00:39:13] Mm-hmm. , and you're gonna repeat, oh,
[00:39:14] Ikenna: we've worked on some self-trust issues.
[00:39:16] Meryl: and I do have some more self-trust
[00:39:19] Ikenna: and I do have some more self-trust.
[00:39:21] Meryl: Yep. Top of the head. And we found that I had some anger from my past.
[00:39:29] Ikenna: We found I had some anger from my past
[00:39:31] Meryl: Yep. Inside the eyebrows. And we shifted that, uh, all of it down to a three.
[00:39:36] Ikenna: We shifted all of that down to a three
[00:39:39] Meryl: outside the eyes and only just a few rounds and only just a few rounds under the eyes. So I see what's possible. .
[00:39:46] Ikenna: So I see what's possible
[00:39:48] Meryl: under the nose and there might be some, um, feelings left or emotions left right? You can fill in the blank.
[00:39:58] Ikenna: Uh, there may be some feelings left
[00:40:04] Meryl: Okay. On the chin. And I wanna kind of, you know, put it in a nice little box for now,
[00:40:10] Ikenna: and I wanna put it in a nice little box for now.
[00:40:12] Meryl: Under the collarbone, what does the box look like?
[00:40:17] Ikenna: Hmm.
[00:40:22] The box looks like
[00:40:27] Meryl: under the arm,
[00:40:28] Ikenna: like a dainty , uh, like a dainty golden box of small box. that has little jewels and a tiny little like clasp to lock it.
[00:40:45] Meryl: Love it.
[00:40:45] Okay. Top of the head. And where is the box? Is it at my house? Is it under your bed? Like at a friend's house? Where is it? Inside the eyebrows. Um, where does it feel safe?
[00:40:57] With the box?
[00:40:59] Ikenna: It feels safe on my altar.
[00:41:03] Meryl: Okay, awesome. Outside the eyes so you can keep the box closed. until you Right. So I can keep the box closed until I feel I want to open it.
[00:41:12] Ikenna: I can feel the, I can keep the box closed until I feel I want to open it
[00:41:16] Meryl: good under the eyes. So all of my emotions and feelings can stay in there safely.
[00:41:22] Ikenna: So all my feelings and emotions can stay in there safely.
[00:41:25] Meryl: Yep. And, um, under the nose, because we're at the end of our session here,
[00:41:31] Ikenna: because we're at the end of our session here
[00:41:33] Meryl: on the chin. and I just want everything to be wrapped up nicely in a box.
[00:41:39] Ikenna: And I just want everything to be wrapped up nicely in a box.
[00:41:42] Meryl: For now.
[00:41:43] Ikenna: For now,
[00:41:44] Meryl: under the collarbone. And that feels good. That feels complete. Like what does that feel like to you?
[00:41:52] Ikenna: That feels peaceful.
[00:41:54] Meryl: Peaceful. All right. And then just tap under the arm and take a deep breath.
[00:42:08] So that kind of wraps it up nicely.
[00:42:11] Ikenna: That's so funny. Cause I just had clients do the The container method. The container method today. Yep.
[00:42:19] Safrianna: Man. Container plus tapping. and then you bilateral tap and you get the emdr, bilateral stimulation there, and that is just like potent stuff.
[00:42:31] Meryl: Trifecta. Yes.
[00:42:34] Ikenna: Buy, buy two, get one free.
[00:42:35] Right. . .
[00:42:38] Safrianna: So Meryl, tell our
[00:42:40] our people how they can work with you and why they would work with you.
[00:42:45] Meryl: Well, I love to help women to fully, authentically express themselves, so not hold back at all in their relationships. , uh, personally, professionally, in their life, you know, really make bold moves so that they feel fulfilled and happy.
[00:43:01] Um, and we do that by finding the root cause of where they learned and how they learn to hold back. Um, I work typically in longer term programs between six weeks and six months because it takes a while to do that rewiring and the reframing and the healing work. Um, to have the full transformation that my clients want.
[00:43:24] Um, currently I have like a limited time single session offer going right now. That's the ancestral d n a healing session, um, for 90 minutes at 3 33. Um, and I have an upcoming, uh, class that's on March 21st at 6:00 PM Eastern Standard time. That is. Liberate your voice. So learning how to communicate in your relationship so that you get your needs met all the time.
[00:43:55] Um, I'm going to put together a group program that might come out in April, so stay tuned for that. And, you know, free Facebook group, empowering Community for Women. And I have content everywhere from TikTok to YouTube, LinkedIn blog. Everywhere,
[00:44:13] Safrianna: which we will have the links underneath our video and audio.
[00:44:18] Again, if you've somehow made it to the end of this and you're still on audio, bless. But , thank you so much Meryl, for this. You are well worth working with as Kenna just got to experience the shift live here. Um, and, and you know, thank you for the work that you do and in helping people to heal from. , these longstanding wounds.
[00:44:42] It's important work.
[00:44:45] Meryl: No, I, I love your both of your energies. Um, it was great to be here and, um, thank you for participating with me and really sharing your own journey because that is, makes profound shifts for people, you know, and really helps them to feel supported. Um, you know, not that I'm just telling them how to do something, but really seeing it.
[00:45:09] you know, in the change in and shift that happened with you is powerful. Yeah. Mm-hmm. , you know, so thank you. Thank you for showing up for yourself, .
[00:45:18] Safrianna: Yes.
[00:45:19] Yep. Well, thank you for being a part of Living Luna and our mission to uplift the others of the world. And if you wanna work with Merrill, find her information in the episode notes.
[00:45:31] Ikenna: Yeah,
[00:45:31] she, she helped me feel Hecken uplifted today.
[00:45:35] Safrianna: Hecken Uplifted .
[00:45:38] That's a great
[00:45:38] review right there, Meryl. Client testimonial, Hecken uplifted.
[00:45:45] Alright, bye for now. Bye.
